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Part 12 Marriage advice for Men looking for a wife
#Avoid with the most cautious of avoidance women who are still connected to their x-husbands/boyfriends men they were engage with via phone, email, social media. Avoid women who speaks to their x husbands, related to their children in secret and private without your consent and present with them alone or stay in contact with him via email or Facebook. Or refuse you to speak to the x-husband related to his children without her, or her sitting beside you. Or he visits and enter your home while you are not present.
This is one of the most hated types of actions, and the cause of fallout in people’s marriage.
One of the major issues with this at times the women still have feelings for this man because of these children. At times the man is very jealous because of his x-wife is married to some on new. So he will argues and fight and get her upset over the phone at times enter your home while you not there and begin to argue with her. Many sisters fall into these affairs due to lacking knowledge on how to deal with non mahram men even if they are their children father who is no longer married to them. Many times this sister is taking advice from him related to your marriage by speaking with him in private either over the phone or social media.
He is no longer Mahram for her, you should make it clear in the marriage contract these affair so its clear before you marry her. Either she has a wakil to handle these affair or you can.
Some women get married just to make the x-husband jealous or payback, be cautious of these type of women and marriages.
By Abul Baraa Muhammad Amreeki
The Prophet صلى الله و عليه و سلم said:
“The religion is naseehah (sincere advice).” We said, “To whom?” He صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “To Allah, His Book, His Messenger, to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk.” (Bukhari and Muslim)
“so that, if any part of the body is not well then the whole body shares the sleeplessness (insomnia) and fever with it.” (Bukhari)
These post are not saying it forbidden to marry these type of women, it is gear towards clarity of what befalls a lot of women that cause their marriage not to work or leave the man with a lot of problems which he become regretful about. Due to Islam in America and other Western countries many converts come to Islam, and many times no one talks to him about these issues and he is left to learn on his own. This is gear towards revert Muslims and any other who it can reach.
Ibn Hibban narrated in his work Nazahti Al-Fadlaa the advice of Al-Khattaab bin Mu’laa Al-Makhzoomee to his son. At the end of his words he mentioned the following: “Know that women vary more than the fingers of your hand. So be cautious in dealing with them.”
Shaykh Salih al Uthymeen described in the seven type of women not to marry one of them being:
Kay’atul-Qafaa:
The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).
Those who disagree with these post , Imam Malik said: ” all speech is accepted or rejected except for the speech of the one in this grave”. He was speaking about the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم.
Works of Abul Baraa Muhamad Amreeki 
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