Works of Abul Baraa Muhamad Amreeki

What can they do if their womenfolk are disobedient? If they refuse to leave home in their jalabïb? If they refuse to stop adorning and beautifying themselves for the eyes of men?

All praise is For Allah and peace and blessing be upon His prophet Sallahu wa alyhi wa salam.

The issue of wife and daughter not wearing hijab falls under disobeying Allah, and the men are responsible for their women and their covering. If they do not do so, or wife or daughter refuses, then we have to look first at what Allah commands them and the men to do which is much to talk about its remedy.

The issue of wife and daughter not wearing hijab falls under disobeying Allah, and the men are responsible for their women and their covering. If they do not do so, or wife or daughter refuses, then we have to look first at what Allah commands them and the men to do which is much to talk about its remedy.

Allah says in Quran related to the men position over their women:

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ ۚ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ ۚ وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ۖ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا

“Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them, guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.” 4:34.

The Messenger of Allah let us also know who are responsible over who:

Abdullah ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.” .Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6719, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1829

Now the Messenger of Allah sallahu wa alyhi wa salam explained when you see something wrong you change it with your hands:

Abu Sa‘id Al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Prophet (Sallallahu a’laihi wa sallam) saying,

“Whosoever of you sees an evil action, he must change it with his hand. If he is not able to do so, then (he must change it) with his tongue. If he is not able to do so then (he must change it) with his heart and this is the weakest (manifestation) of faith.”

[Muslim – Kitab Al-Iman (Book on Faith), hadith 49/78]

Now related to the man’s household related to his family which are his women, if he sees something wrong you must change it with his hand, and who not able to change what is wrong in his own house. The duties of his wife and women and her hijab, her Islam, her protection, her Islamic education, her modesty this responsibility lies in his hand, his control. No matter what the law in that non-Muslim country say it is part of his duty to maintain this.

Now Allah the most High said in Quran about the hijab:

قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَ يَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوْجَهُنَّ
“Say to the believing women that: they should cast down their glances and guard their private parts (by being chaste)…”

This is the hijab of the eyes lowering her gaze, and he also commands the believing men the same.

Then Allah the Most High said:
وَ لاَ يُبْدِيْنَ زِيْنَتَهُنَّ إِلاَّ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَ لْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلىَ جُيُوْبِهِنَّ
“…and not display their beauty except what is apparent, and they should place their khumur over their bosoms…”

Allah gives the following command to Prophet Muhammad:

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ, قُلْ لأَزْوَاجِكَ وَ بَنَاتِكَ وَ نِسآءِ الْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ: يُدْنِيْنَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنْ جَلاَبِيْبِهِنَّ

“O Prophet! Say to your wives, your daughters, and the women of the believers that: they should let down upon themselves their jalabib.”

So now it is understood the women obligation to wear the hijab, and we also understand the Muslim men, the husbands, fathers duties in upholding these commandments. As you see Allah address the prophet “O Prophet! Say to your wives, your daughters, and the women of the believers that: they should let down upon themselves their jalabib.” he addresses the men in this related to their women wearing hijab.

Now for the disobedient wife or daughter in Western countries where they can go to the authority if the father or husband makes them wear hijab.

First thing, the cure for an illness is prevention. Not waiting for the sickness coming ahead. So in this case how the man chooses a spouse first, marrying women who are upright and pious and fear Allah. Besides that, the disobedient wife or daughter prevention is putting the women in a place where she can learn her Islam, from correct Islamic sources. Circle of knowledge, teaching her Islam at a young age, teaching her to wear Hijab at a very young age, teaching not to be like the non-muslim and disliking disobedience at a young age.

If a man sees that his daughters (or wives) are not listening from a young age then he should make hijrah to the place where Islam is being practised and the women observe the Hijab.

If he can not do so, then the Muslims in their community should have sisters who are upright, pious, have Islamic knowledge along with good manners, educate the women by programs, the circle of knowledge, teaching, educating the Muslim women. Start with Tawheed, Aqeedah, Iman, increase the women knowledge about Allah, because if a Muslim disobey Allah in the open it shows their relationship with Allah is weak, and obedience will increase with knowledge and action. Allah the most high said in His noble book:

ادْعُ إِلَىٰ سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِالْحِكْمَةِ وَالْمَوْعِظَةِ الْحَسَنَةِ ۖ وَجَادِلْهُم بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ

“Call to the Way of your Lord with wisdom and a good admonition, and debate with them in a manner that is good.” [Sooratun-Nahl 16:125]

And Allaah said to His Prophets Moosaa and Haaroon (’alayhimas-salaam) when they were going to Fir’awn:

فَقُولَا لَهُ قَوْلًا لَّيِّنًا لَّعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَىٰ

“So say to him a kind word, perhaps he will remember or fear.” [Soorah Taa Haa 20:44] .

I truly believe if we know better we will do better.

Disobedience of a spouse falls under the نشوز Nushooz violation of marital duties that is another topic/subject as its remedies.

By Abul Baraa Muhammad Amreeki