All the praise is for Allah the Most High, the Lord of all the worlds. Peace and Blessing of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and his family and his companions and those who follow him.
To Proceed:
Part 11 Marriage advice for Men looking for a wife.
Advice to the youth about marrying extreme sisters who have nothing with them with knowledge except for he said or she said ………
One of my young companions had a conversation with me about marriage and the struggles for the young brothers who are reverts to Islam who are Salafi and want to find a wife that upon Salafiyah that is balance mashallah. In this conversation he mention about those extreme sisters who claim salafiyah but all that which they are involved in is ‘he said she said’, Giyba and Namimah, and are groupies of fitnah and cliques and there nothing with knowledge with them except ‘Salafi Pubs said this and that’ (or any other trends and blind following website trends and fad cultures, neither is this a refutation against Salafi Pubs), or ‘I heard so and so said shaykh so and so said this’ (allege he said) .
I like to say to my brothers when you meet sisters like this for marriage no joke but go running for the hills!
I like to say why, I’ve married in the past sisters like this, and I wittiness sisters like this in our communities and all they have with them is fitnah due to they do not have correct knowledge and they tie the truth to other ahwaam (layman) like them, and their views related to the deen is weaker and more unstable then her own irrational emotions. So much so you find a sister like this married today and divorce the next day or week or month or year. When you marry her, there is nothing with her from the Book of Allah or the Sunnah of the Prophet sallahu wa alyhi wa salam so she knows nothing about Salafiya.
Once I was married to a sister like this, and she said I was a Mubtadi (innovator) because I had last juz of Quran pocket size Arabic with translation of Yusuf Ali (he has issues in his aqeedah, but this do not mean anyone who has this translation that is revised is an innovator). So she said I was a Mubtadi because this personality where she from who was told years later by one of his scholar to sit out and stop teaching, he said Yusuf Ali is a Mubtadi and any one with this copy of translation of the Quran is a Mubtadi (alleged he said this by her understanding). So she said I must be a Mubtadi, I look at this jahil sister and said by Allah! So I said ‘whoever publish this translation is also a Mubtadi’ she said ‘yes!’. So this jahil sister I said to read who publish it, she read ” Saudi Arabia Committee who in charge of publishing the Quran”. She looks really stupid and dumb after that so I said Saudi must also be Mubtadi, she is jahil marakib (ignorant and do not know she is).
Its translation been edit and revised by the Presidency of Islamic Researches IFTA.
Yusuf ‘Ali, Abdullah. The Holy Qur-an : English translation of the meanings and Commentary. Revised & Edited by The Presidency of Islamic Researches, IFTA. King Fahd Holy Qur-an Printing Complex. (Al Madina Saudi Arabia) 1410 A.H.
When you meet these type of sisters run for the hills! Why, if you do not, this is what happens to many of the brothers who get caught up with these sisters, their understanding of Islam is based upon trends and fads and personalities so one day she married to you next day she married to someone else.
If you have children with her, she will drive you insane because having children with her is not the cure for her ailment, and one day she be with you with your children and the next day she be chasing a newer trend, divorced from you with another brother who just like her, and your children will be with 5 to 6 different men in her care and this will hurt your heart.
Many cases these men also have sickness with them and you do not know what they will do to your kids especially if you have daughters and due to the laws in this country you have no rights over your kids except their mother and she can say Salafiyyah all day long, but when it comes to the book of ridaaa (guardianship) she does not even know what that means, matter, in fact, she might even see you as a real deviant Muslim and you do not deserve your rights.
Many cases the brothers cannot afford to keep their own children due to being at work all the time so their children’s mothers keep them even after the divorce. Or because he has a new family and more responsibilities and his money is limited. This is something you need to think deeply about before you marry sisters who hold these types of extremes.
All the praise is for Allah the Most High, the Lord of all the worlds. Peace and Blessing of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and his family and his companions and those who follow him.
Part 3: Marriage advice for men looking for a wife.
Avoid the woman who say she have many men seeking to marry her and she engage with them all, and the proposal she accepts from one of them , and after having conversation with other men about marriage. For it is a sign the woman is ignorant of the sunnah.
Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) which states that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“No man should offer a proposal of marriage over the proposal of his brother until the first one gives up or gives him permission.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4746).
Many of our sister fall into this error, and is a clear sign she does not have good understanding about Deen or marriage.
This will be a new series of advice for Muslim men who live in North America related to marriage advice on what type of women to avoid for marriage.
These posts are gear for brothers and not sisters. Neither is it to offend any sister who might feel these posts are targeting them due to feeling guilty, or feeling being attacked, or it described you. If you have one of these traits that are described you should try your best to remove it from you.
These posts are not saying it forbidden to marry these type of women, it is gear towards clarity of what befalls a lot of women that cause their marriage not to work or leave the man with a lot of problems which he become regretful about. Due to Islam in America and other Western countries many converts come to Islam, and many times no one talks to him about these issues and he is left to learn on his own. This is gear towards revert Muslims and any other who it can reach.
Ibn Hibban narrated in his work Nazahti Al-Fadlaa the advice of Al-Khattaab bin Mu’laa Al-Makhzoomee to his son. At the end of his words, he mentioned the following: “Know that women vary more than the fingers of your hand. So be cautious in dealing with them.”
Shaykh Salih al Uthymeen described in the seven type of women not to marry one of them being:
Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and ‘ties a band around her head’ all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).
Those who disagree with these posts, Imam Malik said: ” all speech is accepted or rejected except for the speech of the one in this grave”. He was speaking about the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم.
By Abul Baraa Muhammad Amreeki
Works of Abul Baraa Muhamad Amreeki 
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